After a lifetime of hiding my creativity, my thoughts, beliefs and my dream; a lifetime of suppressing my opposition to the gender binary, how my brain works and how I love, a lifetime of being embarrassed by how I look and how I dress, I decided enough is enough.
I started to see that there was nothing wrong with me but something wrong with the world.
The proof is there; we have to look a certain way and in order to fit in. To do that we hurt the planet and its people. We work jobs that we hate or thoroughly dislike to pay for all of that. That house, you work for, you then stuff with things in order to really need a vacation from it all.
We need entertainment and distractions from our lives because living them is hard, and they lack purpose, but we keep ourselves (and others) to doing all of the above.
Because this behavior is internalized.
We do what someone like us is supposed to do almost automatically. We then look at the outcome as if it is proof that what we did was right. We don’t know how to freely think for ourselves and create a life that isn’t based on limiting beliefs because we are afraid. We have learned in the past that we need to be careful to express ourselves.
To deal with all that, we leave behind certain parts of ourselves or turn to hide them, often even for ourselves.
I walked around for 37 years of my life with a hidden truth, because I feared if I would speak it out loud, nobody would love me anymore. It turned out not to be true, but the idea of becoming one of those people that would be stoned to death in certain countries weighs heavy on my heart.
Even if it is scary to speak your full truth, it is still worth it because the costs are too great.
It takes energy to be something you are not. It takes away your chance of being truly happy with your life because you use the wrong reasons to base your choices on. It is stressful and unnecessarily complicated. It makes it hard for you to put up healthy boundaries.
It means you have low self-esteem and might be sabotaging yourself. It also means you put up with things in your life that you shouldn’t put up with.
I started this business out of my background in fashion. I wanted to find a way where I could assist people to become the most beautiful, creative and unique people they wanted to be, unhindered by all that stuff we just talked about. It was important for me to look at the underlying reasons why people feared expressing themselves fully.
When I started sharing what I wanted to do with the people around me, most of them didn’t get it. I felt alone. Unable to do with my life what I wanted to do because what I wanted to do wasn’t seen as worth the effort by the general public.
But, I kept going and found some people that did believe in me and gave me a chance. It is thanks to them that I kept going and I do what I do now.
The “leading your life” platform is much more than just a compilation of everything I learned about authenticity.
It is a creative, ever-growing and ever-changing platform that can show you how to get a life that you love. It is filled with content that shows you how to experience life differently so that it can fill you with love and appreciation. Love for yourself but ultimately also for the world and the people in it. It is a place where you learn to celebrate yourself as who you truly are.
“Leading your life” isn’t just a course, it is a platform. A platform that is filled with people that are learning to be their unapologetic true selves. They want to create lives that fill the needs their souls have rather than following their limiting beliefs. They are unleashing their creativity in the broadest sense of the word, and walk their unique paths.
It is a lovely place to be if you long to be true to who you are and want to feel strong because of who you are, not in spite of who you are.
I hope you are done with allowing yourself to be smaller than you are.
I believe the world would be a better place if everyone in it feels they belong. If you feel you deserve to take up the space that you do, it will be easy for you to put up healthy boundaries, speak up about what you believe in, create chances and be a happier person in general. You will be able to forge relationships not based on what you do for people but because of who you are.
This platform is a way for you to finally let go of everything that has been holding you back and to start living a full life that you love.
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